Attitude

Expect the unexpected. If you're expecting your soulmate to be love at first sight, you might never find what you're looking for. So cultivate a sense of improvisation, and take pleasure in the unexpected.

• Keep an open mind. People have an uncanny ability to surprise you if you give them time. Remember the old idiom: "Things aren't always as they seem." Be open to new opportunities, new places, and most importantly, new people. Part of the romance of having a soulmate is being pleasantly surprised. Who knows, you might even learn a few thing along the way!
• When you meet someone who has soulmate potential, don't get carried away. It's so easy to get lost in fantasies of how awesome your relationship might be, because with those fantasies come high expectations, and sometimes expectations are unrealistic! Make it a point to remind yourself that this new person is human, which means they're not perfect. They will make mistakes, and you need to be ready to cope and forgive, rather than act shocked that the person dares to be anything but perfect.
• Weather the storms. Contrary to what popular media would have you believe, meeting your soulmate doesn't guarantee you a "happily ever after." Things won't necessarily get easier when you find that special someone. In fact, things might get even harder. Ultimately, a soulmate is someone you can grow with, and the only way to grow together is to face challenges together. So put your heart and soul into a relationship, and stick with it through the ups and downs, even when you question whether it's meant to be. When you're old and content, you might look back and realize that you were with your soulmate all along.

Be patient. Fate doesn't work on a schedule. Your soulmate might cross paths with you when you're 8 or 80 years old. You might look forward to spending the majority of your life with your soulmate — perhaps buying a house, getting married, starting a family — but it may or may not be in the cards. One bittersweet lesson of life is that we don't know until we know.

• If there's only one person in the world who can be your soulmate, what are the chances that she'll live in your town, look like the people you grew up with, or even speak the same language? It might be pretty slim. Broaden your horizons; your treat to yourself is that you have so many different people and places to explore!
• A soulmate isn't always a life mate. Your soulmate will color your world no matter how old you are, so don't rush into things. Let things take their course. Don't be so eager to find a soulmate that you end up forcing the wrong person into the soulmate box, causing pain for everyone involved. The love you get from your soulmate is strong, effortless, and timeless.

Self-Improvement

Focus your mind. It's no secret that we're attracted to people who make us laugh, cause us to think, and are generally enthusiastic about the world. We love these people because they're interesting, smart, and passionate. In order to appeal to your soulmate, you can always improve your intellect, no matter where you stand.

• Start learning about what interests you. So you like steam engines, or fashion, or psychology. Take a dive into the deep end and really study that subject you've been meaning to know more about. You don't have to be an expert, but being able to talk about interesting tidbits and crazy connections is appealing to other people and enhances your rich inner life.
• Take the time to travel. You don't need to travel to Venice or Botswana if you don't have the dough or inclination; a quick weekender to that deserted ghost town or quaint city nearby will certainly do. Traveling teaches you about different cultures and enlarges your perspective on life. It also doesn't hurt when it comes to meeting new, potentially fateful, people!
• Engage in debate and discussion. Debate and discussion, at local meetings, bars, or even coffee shops, will hone your ability to think critically and speak publicly. It will also help you become an anchor of your community. Be civil, thoughtful, and don't let your pride get in the way. Do not bully anyone with a different perspective into the ground! Your goal is to learn and share, not "win" the debate.

Hone your body. It's also no secret that physical attraction matters to potential soulmates, although probably not as much as personality and mental spark. Getting in shape and grooming your body so it looks its best is an important step in attracting the person who will love you.

• Join your local gym or "Y." The goal here isn't to look like Tyra Banks or Bradley Cooper; it's to look like the best version of you, no matter who that is, and to feel energized along the way. Exercising even 20 minutes a day will improve your health, decrease stress, and increase longevity.
• Pay attention to what you eat. We all have our guilty pleasures when it comes to food, and that's perfectly acceptable. But what we put into our bodies does have an effect on how we look. Try to incorporate fruits, vegetables, as well as whole grains into your diet, and drink lots of water. You'll look better, feel better, and have more energy during the day. If you need help devising an action plan for weight-loss, consult a nutritionist or doctor.
• Pay attention to the way you look. Some people think that grooming is a waste of time. While it may not be the most important ritual in life, it's probably pretty important to your soulmate. So do your soulmate a favor: bathe regularly, groom your mug, and dress in clothes that flatter you. Your soulmate will thank you.

Express your individuality. Focus on the things that make you a wonderful human being. This step is all about following your own inner voice and conscience. Do what you want to do — within reason — and don't make any apologies for being yourself. Your soulmate will be drawn to who you are deep down inside.

• Find out who you are. Some people are born knowing who they are, and others have to go on a journey of self-discovery. Whichever is the case for you, it's a good idea to right your own ship before you deal with someone else's. Find out what's important to you, what you believe in, what you like and what you dislike. Knowing these things will ultimately give you a lot of tools to find your soulmate.
• Reward yourself by doing the things you really want to do. If you get a kick out of cycling, take time after work to get on your bike and barrel down those roads. There's a good chance that your soulmate will share a lot of your interests. Who knows? Maybe you'll meet them along the way.
• Create art. You don't have to be an artist to create art. Art is self-expression at its barest. Art can be writing faithfully in your journal or blog, making ceramics or pottery, or building miniature models of ships. Whatever form of art you choose, put your body and soul into its creation, and don't be afraid to show it to other people.

How to Find Your Soulmate

Many people feel that there's one person out there who can enrich their life in a way that no one else can. In a world as big and busy as our own, how do we increase our chances of finding this special person? And when we meet him or her, how do we know it's our soulmate? Here are a few tips to help make this tough task a bit easier.

You don't find love, love comes to you. If you really want to find true love forget about dating sites and party clubs, be patient. I know it's hard but be patient and as warning once you're ready to do anything for your love get ready to go through a hell lot of things. It's love, what did you think, it was gonna be easy?

Get yourself out there. If you expect to find your soulmate at some point, chances are you're going to have to take part in the exciting activity known as dating. No, you're not alone; yes, it can be a hassle, and occasionally more than disappointing. But dating can take a lot of forms, and with a little bit of confidence, self-respect, and creativity, can help you find the person of your dreams.

• Ask your friends if they know anyone who might be a good fit for you. Your friends spend a lot of time with you and understand your likes and dislikes. Trust them to set you up with someone they feel is a good match. If you don't hit it off, have the confidence to bounce back, stay on good terms with your date, and not blame your friend.
• Attend functions, socials, and reunions. Have that out-of-town seminar looming? Look at it as a chance to meet someone in the same profession and maybe hit it off. The world works in mysterious ways; the more you attend events that interest you or involve your profession, the higher your chances of meeting that special someone will be.
• Make your public profile interesting, engaging, and honest. Remember, this is what people will first digest when they look at your profile. If you take the time to add interesting details about who you are and where you come from, what you like and what you find funny, chances are the right sort of person will respond. If you're dishonest in your profile, the people you meet in person will eventually figure that out and probably won't respond well.
• Make a genuine effort to reach out to people. Send interesting messages, and take the time to craft an engaging message. "I noticed you're in the auto industry, what do you think of this new car model?" is much likelier to elicit a response than "Hey, what's up?"
• When you decide to meet your date in person, pick a public place and keep the first date short. A public place means your date will feel safe in a social environment. Even if your date is going really well, beg off after an hour and leave time for successive dates. You'll get many chances to feel more comfortable with the individual, and you won't risk exhausting things to talk about on the first date.

Don't keep making the same mistakes. Dating is tough. Finding that person — much less that soulmate — who we feel understands us perfectly and meets all of our needs can take years. That's why it's important to keep growing as we date, and learn from our dating mistakes.

• Don't put yourself in abusive relationships. An abusive relationship will cause you to lose trust in other people, blame yourself for other people's problems, and fall into an attitude of despair. Respect your own dignity and leave relationships in which your partner threatens you, insults you, becomes addicted to drugs, or manipulates you to get what they want. Seek a relationship expert or other professional if you suspect that you might be in an abusive relationship.
• Don't fall back in with the same person you've dated and broken up with six or seven times. Psychologists say that we fall back into relationships with people we've broken up with because of comfort and familiarity: we don't have to start all over again and we know a lot already about the other person. Well, there's a reason you've broken up seven times. Probably more than one. Contrary to what they might say, your relationship probably won't change. Break the cycle and go looking for a new adventure!
• Accept people for who they are, not who you want them to be. You've got all these fantasies flying around in your head about how wonderful and special your soulmate will be, and it can be easy to project those specific characteristics and features in anyone you get involved with. Unrealistic expectations can ruin a relationship, and might even chase your soulmate away. Whoever your soulmate may be, appreciate their individuality and trust that if this person is your soulmate, they'll never need to change who they are for you, just like you'll never need to change who you are for them.

How to Be Creative in love

Write "I love you" in unlikely places. Write "I love you" in the steam of the bathroom mirror after your loved one takes a shower. This will be a fun and fresh romantic surprise. You can also carve this into a tree trunk on your property, or into an old wooden table that you own. You can even tell the waiter to write "I love you" in chocolate on top of a dessert in a restaurant.

• Write "I love you" in the sand on a beach.

Make a mixed CD for your special someone. Fill it with songs that are meaningful to the relationship or that remind you of the other person. You can leave the CD in your partner's car and wait for her to listen to it as a surprise. You can also put the CD in a card on a special occasion.

Give your loved one a massage. If you know your partner had a long day at work, invite him or her over to you for a long, relaxing back or foot massage. You can even add some lotion or oils to make it extra romantic and sexy.

Make a photo album. It's likely that most of your photos are online. Print out the special ones and make a small photo album for your loved one to give him or her a physical reminder about how much you mean to each other. You can even write funny captions for the photos in the album to make the gift more silly and meaningful

Celebrate Valentine's Day on a random day. Who says you need to wait for a Hallmark holiday to tell your loved one how you feel? Pick a random night to celebrate Valentine's Day -- complete with a card, a nice dinner, and a long, loving night. This will be a very romantic move that will surprise and delight your partner.

Declare your love in an old-fashioned way. Dedicate a song to your loved one on the radio and make sure he or she is listening at the right time. You can also declare your love by writing a poem to your loved one and wrapping it around a bottle of wine. You can even serenade your loved one in a public place -- as long as this doesn't embarrass him or her. There are dozens of ways to come up with romantic ideas that are old-fashioned but not corny.

Be a little kid. You can be romantic by showing your loved one how much you care in a silly way. Take her to a county fair, hold her hand, and win her a silly stuffed animal. Go mini-golfing and write "I love you" at the bottom of the score sheet. Go to an amusement or water park together and have fun acting like lovesick teenagers. Who says youth is wasted on the young? You can show your love to your partner by being romantic like a teenager at any age. Here are some other ways to be romantic while acting like a little kid:

Spend an afternoon fingerpainting.

See a fireworks display.

Make cupcakes.

Watch a silly movie from your childhoods.

Tell loving knock-knock jokes.

How to Write a Love Letter

Choose nice paper or stationery. Don’t email a love letter; give the person something they can touch, feel, and, if you’re lucky, tuck into their pillow at night. It's best to write on plain paper that has either a simple (for example, white), calming (for example, cream), or sensual (for example, flesh-toned) color. 

• While a simple piece of printer or notebook paper will do, selecting high-quality paper will add a nice touch and show how much care went into writing this letter.
• You can make regular paper look old or even make your own paper.
• Use either a black or brown ink to keep the writing grounded and classy-looking; avoid “teacher colors” like blue, green, and red that will make it look like you’re marking up a homework assignment.

1.    Set the mood. Go to a private room, like a bathroom or bedroom, put on some romantic music, and dim the lights (or even light candles). Make sure you won’t be interrupted. If you have a song or album that reminds you of the person, put it on; it will help you conjure up memories and feelings. 

Think of a time when you felt particularly moved by seeing your loved one, no matter how small the event. Recall the moment in vivid detail; this proves that you were fully present and that all your attention was fixed on this person––something most people love to hear. Remember the emotional and physical feelings you experienced in that moment. Then, write a description of that moment including details about your feelings at the time. 

Tell the person what you appreciate most about them. Is it their compassion? Thankfulness? Beauty? Sense of humor? Humility? Resourcefulness? How do they make you feel every day? Do you consider this person your best friend? Can (s)he be counted on through thick and thin? Write about a combination of attributes––looks, personality, humor, charm––to let this person know that you appreciate them on a number of levels.

o    Be aware that exclusively focusing on appearance will make your feelings appear superficial. However, exclusively focusing on personality might seem too platonic (or make the individual feel unattractive). If appropriate, be sensual (but not openly erotic).

o    Be totally, unabashedly honest. Your writing style, spelling, punctuation, grammar, and any other distractions should take a back seat to your confession of exactly how you feel and why.

Write about the future. If you’re confessing your feelings for the first time, admit how giddy you are every time you know you’re about to see them again. If you’re apart, describe all the things you want to do together when you’re reunited. If you’re committed, discuss some goals, dreams, and fantasies you have about your future life together.

Sign the letter. Suitable sign offs include “Yours,” “Yours Forever,” “XOXO,” “Kisses,” “Love,” and “Love Always.” If applicable, include a pet name, inside joke, or even a reply to a long-unanswered question to make it more personal. 

Add a personal touch. Put lipstick on and kiss the paper, spray the perfume or cologne you always wear on the paper, or trace your hand on the back so that the other person can hold their hand up to yours.

Put the letter in an envelope. If you want, you can make the envelope or even fold the note itself into an envelope. Alternatively, roll the letter up like a scroll and tie it closed with a piece of nice ribbon or string.

Write other love letters. Don’t make this a one-time event; make a habit of writing love letters to the person you care about for birthdays, anniversaries, time spent apart, time spent together, or no particular reason at all. The more you do, the easier to write and more meaningful they’ll become.

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How to Be Romantic

Give thoughtful gifts. Though flowers or chocolate can make almost anyone smile, you can surprise your loved one even more if you give a gift tailored to his or her personality, so it's something that he or she will really appreciate. This type of gift will be very romantic because it will show that you put a lot of thought into what would make the perfect gift for your special someone. Here are some romantic gift ideas:

• Gifts for a music lover: concert tickets, an iTunes gift card, a new CD, a book about his or her favorite artist or band, a record player with a few records, a DVD of a concert of his favorite band, a poster of his favorite band, or even a bobble-head of his or her favorite musician.
• Gifts for a sports fan: a signed baseball, basketball, or football, a baseball cap or jersey with his or her favorite team's logo on it, tickets to a highly sought-after game, a "voucher" for a weekend trip to see a new sports arena, a shout-out on the Jumbotron during a game, or a documentary about your loved one's favorite athlete.
• Gifts for a food lover: a new cookbook, a subscription to a cooking magazine, a gift card to a new restaurant, a fancy bottle of wine paired with delicious cheese, enrollment in a cooking glass, a fancy new cooking tool, or nice new serving bowls.
• Gifts for a fashion lover: a gift card to his or her favorite store, a new outfit from their favorite store, a new pair of shoes, tickets to a fashion show, or fashionable accessories.
• Gifts for a book lover: an e-reader, a personalized bookmark, a signed copy or first edition of a book, a gift card to a book store, a surprise trip to a reading by his or her favorite author, or a copy of a rare book.
• Gifts for an outdoor lover: Clothing for his or her favorite activity, whether it's hiking or mountain biking, sunglasses or binoculars, guidebooks for a new location he or she wanted to visit, or other outdoor gear they've wanted, like a new backpack.

Take your love on thoughtful dates. Though any date that is planned with love and care is very romantic, it would be even more romantic if you planned a date tailored to the needs and interests of your loved one. If your love interest hates the outdoors but you plan a long hiking adventure, then that wouldn't be very romantic. If you want to plan a romantic date that's perfect for your loved one, then try some of these tips:

Dates for a music lover:

• Go to his or her favorite artist's concert. If it's a free concert at a park, pack a small picnic to accompany the show.
• Listen to a local jazz or folk concert at a small cafe. Enjoy wine or dessert while you listen.
• Cook a romantic meal while listening to the records of your loved one's favorite artist.
• If you play the guitar, write a romantic song and serenade your loved one with it.
• Spend an afternoon perusing a record store with your loved one. Then go home and enjoy your new acquisitions.

• Dates for an outdoor lover:
  • Go on a hike to the top of the mountain and enjoy a picnic along the way.
  • Take a boat ride.
  • Ride bikes on a wooden trail.
  • Go horseback riding.
  • Take a long walk or a jog on the beach together.
  • Spend a night stargazing on a blanket. Bring a small telescope for the occasion.
• Date for the sentimental type:
  • If you've been together for a while, recreate your first date together and write your loved one a letter that shows how much your love has grown since then.
  • Spend a day hitting up all of your favorite local haunts. Order the same foods and drinks you used to love.
  • Spend a night in looking at your old photos and letters.
• Dates for a food lover:
• Cook your loved one her favorite meal. Practice making it when he or she isn't there so it's perfect.
• Make cheese or chocolate fondue together.
• Arrange a perfect cheese and nuts plate to go with an nice bottle of wine.
• Play light jazz, light candles, and cook a meal together.

Leave thoughtful notes for your loved one. If you want to keep your romance alive, then you should leave thoughtful notes for your loved one to find when you aren't around. If you leave the house earlier than your loved one for work or another reason, leave a post-it note on the bathroom mirror that tells your loved one something like, "I hope you have a wonderful day, sweetie. I can't wait to see you tonight!" This will make your loved one smile as soon as he sees it. Here are some other ways to leave thoughtful notes:

Leave a note in your loved one's textbook or pleasure-reading book. Your loved one may not find it for a few days, but when he does, it'll put a big smile on his face.

If your loved one is going away on a trip for a few days, put it in his or her travel bag, in a place where he won't look until he gets to his destination. This will make him think of you as soon as he opens it, and you won't feel like you're so far away.

If you're feeling really romantic, you can even write a love letter.

Send thoughtful texts or emails throughout your day. Though you shouldn't smother your loved one with love all day long or it's effect will begin to wear off, you can just remind him or her of how much you love him by sending a short email during your work day, or sending a sweet text or two just to say that you're thinking of him. Here are some ways to send thoughtful texts or emails throughout your day:

• Send a quick email that says something like this: "Dear Joan, I've been thinking about that amazing meal you made more me last night. I'm so lucky to have you in my life. I can't wait to take you out to dinner this weekend to return the favor. Yours, Mark."
• Send a quick text that says something like: "What is my love up to this afternoon? I hope you're enjoying the sunshine."
• Don't go overboard -- just one message each day will get the point across.

Do thoughtful favors. If you want to be romantic, then you have to be able to read your loved one's mind and to know when he or she needs to you to help out a bit by doing a small favor. Though you may not think running to the grocery store to pick up a few day's worth of groceries when your loved one is busy is very romantic, it actually shows that you're thoughtful and attentive to your loved one's needs. Here are some thoughtful favors you can do to show you care

• If your loved one has a cold, take on pet duty for the week. Offer to walk her dog in the mornings, or to help feed and take care of her pet.
• If your loved one's allergies are raging, offer to water the plants for a few weeks until she feels better.
• If your loved one is tied up at work, step out to get her some lunch and hot coffee.
• If your loved one mentioned some errand he needed to run, surprise him by doing it for him.