Choose nice paper or stationery. Don’t email a love letter; give the person something they can touch, feel, and, if you’re lucky, tuck into their pillow at night. It's best to write on plain paper that has either a simple (for example, white), calming (for example, cream), or sensual (for example, flesh-toned) color.
- While a simple piece of printer or notebook paper will do, selecting high-quality paper will add a nice touch and show how much care went into writing this letter.
- You can make regular paper look old or even make your own paper.
- Use either a black or brown ink to keep the writing grounded and classy-looking; avoid “teacher colors” like blue, green, and red that will make it look like you’re marking up a homework assignment.
1.
Set
the mood. Go to a private
room, like a bathroom or bedroom, put on some romantic music, and dim the
lights (or even light candles). Make sure you won’t be interrupted. If you have
a song or album that reminds you of the person, put it on; it will help you
conjure up memories and feelings.
Think of a time when you felt particularly moved by seeing your
loved one, no matter how small the event. Recall the moment in vivid detail; this proves that you were
fully present and that all your attention was fixed on this person––something
most people love to hear. Remember the emotional and physical feelings you
experienced in that moment. Then, write a description of that moment including
details about your feelings at the time.
Tell the person what you appreciate most about them. Is it their compassion? Thankfulness?
Beauty? Sense of humor? Humility? Resourcefulness? How do they make you feel
every day? Do you consider this person your best friend? Can (s)he be counted
on through thick and thin? Write about a combination of attributes––looks,
personality, humor, charm––to let this person know that you appreciate them on
a number of levels.
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Be aware that
exclusively focusing on appearance will make your feelings appear superficial.
However, exclusively focusing on personality might seem too platonic (or make
the individual feel unattractive). If appropriate, be sensual (but not openly
erotic).
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Be totally,
unabashedly honest. Your writing style, spelling, punctuation, grammar, and any
other distractions should take a back seat to your confession of exactly how
you feel and why.
Write about the future. If you’re confessing your feelings for the first time, admit
how giddy you are every time you know you’re about to see them again. If you’re
apart, describe all the things you want to do together when you’re reunited. If
you’re committed, discuss some goals, dreams, and fantasies you have about your
future life together.
Sign the letter. Suitable sign offs include “Yours,” “Yours Forever,” “XOXO,”
“Kisses,” “Love,” and “Love Always.” If applicable, include a pet name, inside
joke, or even a reply to a long-unanswered question to make it more personal.
Add a personal touch. Put lipstick on and kiss the paper, spray the perfume or
cologne you always wear on the paper, or trace your hand on the back so that
the other person can hold their hand up to yours.
Put the letter in an envelope. If you want, you can make the envelope or even fold the note itself into an envelope.
Alternatively, roll the letter up like a scroll and tie it closed with a piece
of nice ribbon or string.
Write other love letters. Don’t make this a one-time event; make a habit of writing love
letters to the person you care about for birthdays, anniversaries, time spent
apart, time spent together, or no particular reason at all. The more you do,
the easier to write and more meaningful they’ll become.
Finished.
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