Self-Improvement

Focus your mind. It's no secret that we're attracted to people who make us laugh, cause us to think, and are generally enthusiastic about the world. We love these people because they're interesting, smart, and passionate. In order to appeal to your soulmate, you can always improve your intellect, no matter where you stand.

• Start learning about what interests you. So you like steam engines, or fashion, or psychology. Take a dive into the deep end and really study that subject you've been meaning to know more about. You don't have to be an expert, but being able to talk about interesting tidbits and crazy connections is appealing to other people and enhances your rich inner life.
• Take the time to travel. You don't need to travel to Venice or Botswana if you don't have the dough or inclination; a quick weekender to that deserted ghost town or quaint city nearby will certainly do. Traveling teaches you about different cultures and enlarges your perspective on life. It also doesn't hurt when it comes to meeting new, potentially fateful, people!
• Engage in debate and discussion. Debate and discussion, at local meetings, bars, or even coffee shops, will hone your ability to think critically and speak publicly. It will also help you become an anchor of your community. Be civil, thoughtful, and don't let your pride get in the way. Do not bully anyone with a different perspective into the ground! Your goal is to learn and share, not "win" the debate.

Hone your body. It's also no secret that physical attraction matters to potential soulmates, although probably not as much as personality and mental spark. Getting in shape and grooming your body so it looks its best is an important step in attracting the person who will love you.

• Join your local gym or "Y." The goal here isn't to look like Tyra Banks or Bradley Cooper; it's to look like the best version of you, no matter who that is, and to feel energized along the way. Exercising even 20 minutes a day will improve your health, decrease stress, and increase longevity.
• Pay attention to what you eat. We all have our guilty pleasures when it comes to food, and that's perfectly acceptable. But what we put into our bodies does have an effect on how we look. Try to incorporate fruits, vegetables, as well as whole grains into your diet, and drink lots of water. You'll look better, feel better, and have more energy during the day. If you need help devising an action plan for weight-loss, consult a nutritionist or doctor.
• Pay attention to the way you look. Some people think that grooming is a waste of time. While it may not be the most important ritual in life, it's probably pretty important to your soulmate. So do your soulmate a favor: bathe regularly, groom your mug, and dress in clothes that flatter you. Your soulmate will thank you.

Express your individuality. Focus on the things that make you a wonderful human being. This step is all about following your own inner voice and conscience. Do what you want to do — within reason — and don't make any apologies for being yourself. Your soulmate will be drawn to who you are deep down inside.

• Find out who you are. Some people are born knowing who they are, and others have to go on a journey of self-discovery. Whichever is the case for you, it's a good idea to right your own ship before you deal with someone else's. Find out what's important to you, what you believe in, what you like and what you dislike. Knowing these things will ultimately give you a lot of tools to find your soulmate.
• Reward yourself by doing the things you really want to do. If you get a kick out of cycling, take time after work to get on your bike and barrel down those roads. There's a good chance that your soulmate will share a lot of your interests. Who knows? Maybe you'll meet them along the way.
• Create art. You don't have to be an artist to create art. Art is self-expression at its barest. Art can be writing faithfully in your journal or blog, making ceramics or pottery, or building miniature models of ships. Whatever form of art you choose, put your body and soul into its creation, and don't be afraid to show it to other people.